I was wounded. I had been nursing the caustic unkind words for days. I retreated further into my cracked shell, licking my wounds to attempt to avoid further pain. It wasn’t the first time this happened. I bore plenty of old scars to prove it. I stewed over the conversation. As my anger festered, I debated disconnecting from this painful relationship.


When it comes to conflict resolution, nothing frustrates me more than the proverbial ostrich. It’s precarious having a relationship with someone who insists on being one. If you pull too hard, they run away. If you don’t push hard enough, they stay stuck. Conflict is messy stuff. How can it be easier?

Ostrich-like behavior is a method of control used to manipulate others. This highly skilled behavior uses diversion, blame-shifting and a whole library of maneuvering strategies—all to get away from that uncomfortable pain of working through an issue. Yes, conflict is painful.


In my book “Unequally Yoked: Staying Committed to Jesus and Your Unbelieving Spouse” I discuss the importance of creating a bridge of understanding between viewpoint differences. You can easily do this by asking your friend questions about what they believe and why they believe it.

July 7, 2018 Prayer Walk

From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. Acts 17:26 July 7, 2018. Every year on July 7, the Daily Audio Bible holds their annual prayer walk...

Interview with

It was my privilege to be interviewed by Naomi Bolton of I really appreciated this opportunity to discuss the creation of my debut non-fiction book. It’s difficult for good Christian books to be seen and acknowledged in the secular...


But like the Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves in all your conduct (be set apart from the world by your godly character and moral courage). 1 Peter 1:15 AMP

Resources for the Unequally Yoked Marriage

UNEQUALLY YOKED RESOURCES Wading through heaps of good and bad marital advice on the internet to find the one particular article that you need is challenging. Finding resources pertaining specifically to the unequally yoked marriage is even more time consuming. To aid...


The Bible is an incredible book full of mysteries and wisdom. Passages that might seem mundane at first reading can often provide hidden clues to problem-solving our everyday life. Often as I’m reading, certain passages seem to jump out at me. I believe the Lord highlights scriptures for us right when we need them. As we meditate on those illuminated scriptures, we discover those important hidden messages.

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