The new dystopian era creates new relationship stresses and demands more time in the kitchen.
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But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or his stature, because I have rejected him. Man does not see what the Lord sees, for man sees what is visible, but the Lord sees the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7 God chose Saul, a tall good-looking man to lead the...
Hanging in my foyer is R.S. Parker's 1991 painting "Through the Firs Eagle" (pictured here.) It's probably the first thing you"ll notice when you walk into my house. Throughout my house eagle sculptures and pictures decorate almost every room. Above my office...
When you live with someone long enough, informality sets in and our true personality comes to the forefront. Before, when we were dating, we were all smiles and full of niceties. But now, that niceness disappears in a flash when the stress of daily living intrudes. And usually, our spouse gets the worst of our speech and attitude. I’m sure we can all use a refresher lesson in kindness and humility. Especially when we’ve messed up.
I was wounded. I had been nursing the caustic unkind words for days. I retreated further into my cracked shell, licking my wounds to attempt to avoid further pain. It wasn’t the first time this happened. I bore plenty of old scars to prove it. I stewed over the conversation. As my anger festered, I debated disconnecting from this painful relationship.
When it comes to conflict resolution, nothing frustrates me more than the proverbial ostrich. It’s precarious having a relationship with someone who insists on being one. If you pull too hard, they run away. If you don’t push hard enough, they stay stuck. Conflict is messy stuff. How can it be easier?
Ostrich-like behavior is a method of control used to manipulate others. This highly skilled behavior uses diversion, blame-shifting and a whole library of maneuvering strategies—all to get away from that uncomfortable pain of working through an issue. Yes, conflict is painful.
In my book “Unequally Yoked: Staying Committed to Jesus and Your Unbelieving Spouse” I discuss the importance of creating a bridge of understanding between viewpoint differences. You can easily do this by asking your friend questions about what they believe and why they believe it.
From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. Acts 17:26 July 7, 2018. Every year on July 7, the Daily Audio Bible holds their annual prayer walk...
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