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It’s All In The Attitude
When you live with someone long enough, informality sets in and our true personality comes to the forefront. Before, when we were dating, we were all smiles and full of niceties. But now, that niceness disappears in a flash when the stress of daily living intrudes. And usually, our spouse gets the worst of our speech and attitude. I'm sure we can all use a refresher lesson in kindness and humility. Especially when we’ve messed up.
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LESSONS FROM A COFFEE POT
I was wounded. I had been nursing the caustic unkind words for days. I retreated further into my cracked shell, licking my wounds to attempt to avoid further pain. It wasn’t the first time this happened. I bore plenty of old scars to prove it. I stewed over the conversation. As my anger festered, I debated disconnecting from this painful relationship.
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CONFLICT RESOLUTION
When it comes to conflict resolution, nothing frustrates me more than the proverbial ostrich. It’s precarious having a relationship with someone who insists on being one. If you pull too hard, they run away. If you don’t push hard enough, they stay stuck. Conflict is messy stuff. How can it be easier? Ostrich-like behavior is a method of control used to manipulate others. This highly skilled behavior uses diversion, blame-shifting and a whole library of maneuvering strategies—all to get away from that uncomfortable pain of working through an issue. Yes, conflict is painful.
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RELIGION WITHOUT BORDERS
In my book “Unequally Yoked: Staying Committed to Jesus and Your Unbelieving Spouse” I discuss the importance of creating a bridge of understanding between viewpoint differences. You can easily do this by asking your friend questions about what they believe and why they believe it.
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RIGHTEOUS LIVING
But like the Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves in all your conduct (be set apart from the world by your godly character and moral courage). 1 Peter 1:15 AMP
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Resources for the Unequally Yoked Marriage
UNEQUALLY YOKED RESOURCES Wading through heaps of good and bad marital advice on the internet to find the one particular article that you need is challenging. Finding resources pertaining specifically to the unequally yoked marriage is even more time consuming. To aid you in your search, I’m providing some links below to a few helpful websites. These resources are not exclusive to faith divergent marriages, but they do contain some excellent information in this area. Although our need for good resources is specific to faith differences in marriage, our search is compounded with other dilemmas too. First of all, our faith indifferent or antagonistic spouse may be cold to reading…
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ASKING GOD FIRST
The Bible is an incredible book full of mysteries and wisdom. Passages that might seem mundane at first reading can often provide hidden clues to problem-solving our everyday life. Often as I'm reading, certain passages seem to jump out at me. I believe the Lord highlights scriptures for us right when we need them. As we meditate on those illuminated scriptures, we discover those important hidden messages.
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Interview with Author and Blogger Caroll Zavala
This is a link to my interview with Carroll Zavala from February 20, 2018. Please click the link to read her article. via Miranda J. Chivers’ Unequally Yoked
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MAKING CONNECTIONS THROUGH PROVERBS
When looking for ways to start a meaningful conversation about faith, look for points of commonality. In this article, I show how the much of the book of Proverbs is actually ingrained in our Judaic-Christian democratic culture.
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The Relevance of Palm Sunday
Read John 12: 12-13 Yesterday, being Palm Sunday I was initially struck by Jesus’ humble entrance into the city. Then today, as I was reading this passage again, I had another revelation. This same crowd that celebrated the arrival of the Messiah one day openly denounced him and sent him to the cross a few days later. Does this bear any relevance to my life today? As I stood in the church service with arms uplifted singing songs that celebrated our Savior, I realized I was one person in a crowd that were all doing the same thing. Later as I reflected, I asked myself, “was I singing because…
